tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post7227388293423214854..comments2023-12-20T02:38:41.665-06:00Comments on Healthy Writer: Are You Lying to Yourself?Trish Milburnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08812010789617982102noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post-71101693856904545522010-01-12T09:58:06.389-06:002010-01-12T09:58:06.389-06:00Sometimes you just can't deal with it, and the...Sometimes you just can't deal with it, and the "lie" can help you go on. Denial, though, can just hurt you more in the long term.Michelle Butlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02942323903767732265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post-31448674060492944392010-01-12T08:59:18.798-06:002010-01-12T08:59:18.798-06:00Another good post, Michelle. I think we've pro...Another good post, Michelle. I think we've probably lied to ourselves about something somewhere along the line. I think it's at least part a coping mechanism so we don't feel bad about ourselves and our actions/lack of action.Trish Milburnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08812010789617982102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post-73637709201973344422010-01-11T10:48:07.597-06:002010-01-11T10:48:07.597-06:00Elise, I thought of this as my tough love post. I...Elise, I thought of this as my tough love post. I'm glad it helped you. Do let me know if I'm ever crossing the line. :) <br /><br />I definitely can over-rationalize emotion away as well. For years, I was not very good at recognizing or acknowledging emotions - in myself or in my writing. I've worked on both a lot. <br /><br />Realizing that unacknowledged emotions, particularly when they are negative, will lead me to overeat has given me the motivation to be better about figuring out what I'm feeling and trying to work it out. It's all been part of my willingness to give it my all and try just about anything to lose weight. <br /><br />Also, we only have one life. I want to make mine the best it can be, and that takes some self-reflection and even going to some dark places. I've had to work on realizing/ recognizing how I'm consciously or unconsciously sabotaging myself. I'm really trying to make some progress in that concerning my writing this year.Michelle Butlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02942323903767732265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post-66596026245044998862010-01-11T08:39:37.199-06:002010-01-11T08:39:37.199-06:00Hey Michelle! You ask some tough questions here. I...Hey Michelle! You ask some tough questions here. I think one of the things I admire most about you is your ability for self-reflection--for asking yourself (and others) the tough questions. I pretty much have the self-reflective tendencies of a a vampire (no reflection at all :), so your posts are always good for me. <br /><br />In my writing life, I've been one of those people who said I wanted to be published, but then would let months go by without writing (always with a good excuse about how busy I was at work and home). I still think it's ok to take a month off occasionally, when things really heat up at work or at home, but that's *one* month. Not three or four. I'm now committed to integrating writing into my weekly life--treating it as an extension of my job, something I do (ideally) five days a week. <br /><br />Like with my running, I won't always hit that 5-day per week target, but even if it's only 4 days, it leaves me feeling pretty healthy. <br /><br />And emotions are on my list of things to pay more attention to this year--both in my characters and in myself. I've noticed that I tend to gloss over what I'm feeling (over-rationalize it away before I'm even fully conscious of the feeling). Part of me wonders if that's why I have such a hard time accessing emotions in my characters, too. Definitely something to work on this year...Elise Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01228389091580390610noreply@blogger.com