tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post5389900365728446623..comments2023-12-20T02:38:41.665-06:00Comments on Healthy Writer: Is This a Laughing Matter?Trish Milburnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08812010789617982102noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post-82506067736260522612010-02-22T10:54:45.689-06:002010-02-22T10:54:45.689-06:00I hear what you are saying, Trish. I'm not en...I hear what you are saying, Trish. I'm not entirely sure that all self-deprecating humor is unhealthy. I think it helps to keep the ego in check. I know it can be endearing when others use self-deprecating humor. And, it can be a great way, as all humor can, to get the "audience" on your side. (Read Liz Carpenter's book on public humor - start with a laugh.)<br /><br />I do think that humor can help release the tension - I think that's partly why dark humor can be so prevelant amount high-stress occupations - e.g. nurse voice, cop humor, etc. That's why I think of joking about this as part of a way to let go and relax about it. <br /><br />And, I'm not going to replace my obsession to lose weight with an obsession to learn to laugh about it. :) I do have focus and resolve and determination right now though, and I'm glad about that. :)Michelle Butlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02942323903767732265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post-5178550307662927952010-02-22T10:41:46.692-06:002010-02-22T10:41:46.692-06:00This isn't something I'd thought about. An...This isn't something I'd thought about. And unfortunately I suspect any humor I've had about this has been self-deprecating. Of course, that's not healthy. I think the humor will come when it's the right time. I think it makes sense that instead of humor, we have focus and resolve right now. I think maybe it's easier to joke about anything trying in our lives once it's in the rear-view mirror, the ol' "We'll laugh about this someday."Trish Milburnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08812010789617982102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post-62980925866209251262010-02-22T10:00:14.911-06:002010-02-22T10:00:14.911-06:00I think it's healthy too, Elise. That's w...I think it's healthy too, Elise. That's why it's kind of bothering me that I can't joke about this. I'm not going to obsess, but I look forward to the day that I do joke about it.Michelle Butlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02942323903767732265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post-7317200783199087762010-02-22T09:41:26.210-06:002010-02-22T09:41:26.210-06:00I pretty much think that anytime you can laugh abo...I pretty much think that anytime you can laugh about something, it's healthy. That's resulted in some pretty dark humor over the years, but I still figure it's better than crying. It shows I'm still in the game, still trying :)Elise Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01228389091580390610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post-22047959671529751822010-02-22T09:32:24.758-06:002010-02-22T09:32:24.758-06:00Tawny, the only thing I've been able to come u...Tawny, the only thing I've been able to come up with is a pun too - why does this have to be such a weighed matter? Yeah, I know, not terribly funny. And, I can't think of a time when I made a joke whenever it was going well either. <br /><br />It gives me something to think about. It does seem like the guys in the WW room never feel as badly about it or themselves as the ladies do. You can literally see the cloud/aura of self-loathing around some of the ladies at times - and sadly, I know mine has shown too. <br /><br />I have worked at finding ways to touch base with the positives on a regular basis. What usually helps the most then is to try on clothes (and glory that I fit into a size I never thought I'd get into again OR glory in how big a former size now is) and look at past photos. I've made an effort to make sure I have a photo of myself every five pounds down so that I can clearly see the difference that "just" five pounds make.Michelle Butlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02942323903767732265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4075446136550534568.post-30178301736292110522010-02-22T04:55:11.103-06:002010-02-22T04:55:11.103-06:00Michelle, I really don't think men have the bo...Michelle, I really don't think men have the body issues we have. At least, not in the way we identify with ours. I can't think of any jokes about my weight/losing focus, but I have been known to make smart alek remarks once in awhile. Then again, I do that about everything *g* <br /><br />But when my weight isn't cooperating, its a lot harder to see the lighter side (oho, pun there). I get so down on the journey and focus on the frustrations, instead of seeing the progress and positives. I'm working really hard on that, though. Maybe with it will come a few jokes? I'll let you know *g*Tawnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14076851566613018105noreply@blogger.com